On the free market, I got to know Tinder and other dating apps. I enjoyed many aspects of single life, but I still longed for a relationship and a partner. The warmth and closeness of another person, sharing things and life, getting to know someone on a deeper level, everyday humor, sex, plans, my own family—all of that was just around the corner. I just couldn’t find a partner. There were some who weren’t interested in me, and there were others who would have liked to date me, but I didn’t feel any attraction to them, even though there was nothing wrong with them. We just weren’t compatible. I messaged many people, went to bars and on dates, and got tired of the whole thing. Summarizing myself in “sales copy and pictures” was tedious. It was like I was applying for a job by sending endless resumes and applications when I should have changed my approach entirely! The whole thing felt complicated, and there was plenty of advice available if you went looking for it. I decided that if nothing came of this latest conversation, I would delete Tinder altogether.

Let’s rewind a little.

For a couple of decades, I had been familiarizing myself with self-help literature, attending emotional, physical, and psychotherapy sessions, and discovering many useful tools, a better sense of well-being and order in my life. I was ready to try even some of the more unusual things and see for myself whether they had any effect or not. One piece of advice from American coach Tony Robbins had stuck in my mind, and as is my habit, I threw myself into the role of guinea pig and did an exercise to find a relationship and, in fact, to attract one into my life. I combined this with two other clarifying exercises and trust in the order of things, as well as the humility to look at myself honestly in the mirror and a focus on what I myself can influence. I accepted what I knew I hoped for and wanted, admitted what I definitely did not want, and did my best to acknowledge my own shortcomings.

To return to my last Tinder conversation. It was my last one. That acquaintance is now my wife, and we have two small children. My wife is, in every way, the kind of partner I wrote about wanting in my life (and in ways I couldn’t even hope for at the time). She is nothing like what I wrote about not wanting in my life. She is the right partner according to my own definition, a good match. I work every day to be the man I thought at the time that the woman of my dreams would find and deserve, and who she might actually be interested in.

To extend the story a little further, I will explain how this course came about.

After dating my current wife for a while, I observed one of our friends struggling to find a partner. Everything in her life was “fine,” but she lacked a good relationship. It wasn’t for lack of trying. She was getting older every day, and at some point, began to worry whether her dreams, such as having a family, would ever come true. I decided to try to help and wrote her a prescription that, if followed, would enable her to move forward from the stuck situation. But each step would have to be taken relatively conscientiously.

As they say in Alcoholics Anonymous: The program works if you work it. In other words, the program works when you work it. Do your part, and things will fall into place.

It took me a few months to find a partner, but for this friend it ended up taking a few years. However, the end result was so successful that even she (together with her spouse!) occasionally looks back in amazement at the list she wrote and how it could have come true so precisely.

She shared the formula with her friends and her spouse’s friends – and encouraged me to write a book on the subject. As the formula did not reach new people in its original form, but rather like in Chinese whispers, the results were not ideal. When altered, the effect of the recipe was not the same anymore.

It is not yet time to write that book, but with the help of online courses, we can now easily, personally, and effectively share valuable information with others. That is why I offer this course: so that you can have these simple but effective tools at your fingertips and use them in the form they were originally intended.

I believe that evening exercises done over the course of one week are sufficient to steer your course away from the vast open sea and toward the harbor of love.

The end result is so much in the hands of each individual that I cannot give any guarantees, but I believe that after completing the course assignments, your life will be more conscious and clearer, and you will be excited to face and receive what you have written for yourself.

Best regards, Jupe